PROBLEMS DURING DATING
Dating ,from its thorough evolution has had its different meanings and viewpoints to a whole motley of crowd, depending upon what part of coin they want to scrutinise.
But then, dating has its own perspectives to the individuals involved in frequent or once in a while experience too. For some people, it might be just another game, just another time when the ball came in their court, but on the other hand, for someone who is serious, it may bring back memories of previous dating too, which lead to turmoil and humiliation.
It’s rightly said that “experience is the best teacher.”
So, it’s also necessary to delve into the experience rather than just be confronted by it.
We all have lost our once loved mates, down the lane, but then, how many of us have ever thought and waited to look back…and have a different perspective of the whole episode from a very neutral point of view. Hardly many of us!
Its very easy, to bury memories with the sands of time, but the truth is that they cannot be obliterated too soon, the blemishes remain and keep haunting our present in terms of little coincidences, memories and remembrance.
| • | The very first problem that all of us are haunted with is the lack of our own knowledge of ourselves. how much do you understand yourself? |
Most of the times, we spend our lives in scrutinising the other people, blaming the other people for the rest of the lives without even giving a single glance to the fact that what the reason could have had been behind the whole mess?
We just run away from the problems, leave it into our closets to fragment with time, but not knowing that one-day, its smell will disturb our business only.
How many of us feel sorry, before the partner admits he was wrong?
Its only when the tide has washed back, the wet sand remains…signifying guilt.
The communication gaps that come in between have a very devastating effect.
No matter ,how much the other person tries, if you are not convinced to hear it out, you won’t. But then, all through our lives, we donot believe that it was mine problem, something was done wrong by me too. The roller coaster end…
And there’s is just silence to listen to.
With time, there would be again bitter clashes, again break ups…
What one can do is to blame one’s luck, one innocence that was misused, one’s time that betrayed…but never will one face the truth of looking oneself straight into the mirror ,eye to eye, and accepting the mistake deep inside. One’s pain appears to be the deepest to everyone, but then others too have gone through such crisis. This acceptance takes year to sing in.
That’s why, it’s rightly said that “life is difficult.”
| • | The second problem than we all face is over expectation. We normally believe at times, that our partner is our God, our protagonist, our enigma, rather than giving him/her the breathing place required. We often forget in the whole me-me business, that even our counterpart has his/her own individuality and integrity to cater too. And when, we ,at some unfortunate instances, face the music, the anger mushrooms in us, the dormant volcano erupts and the lava burns way, with itself, every innocent memory. We feel entangled and handicapped at times. As if, the whole world is against us, the whole universe has conspired. Moreover the blind following of romantic flicks, which stress on the fact that true love never dies,doesnet let the parasite in us extinguish its poisonous fangs. |
| • | Third and the last hurricane that strikes a relationship is the curse of ego, which never allows us to make things fall back into its right places. It can be clashes due to promotions,dur to poularity,due to personality. And the revolt starts. The more webs we weave, the more entangled are we. The first “I love you” card goes down the drain, the first kiss, the warm embrace, all go ignored and deleted. Finally, the whole enumeration of complains gets longer and longer…finally wiping out the whole essence of fervour. It matters to you and not to anyone else, so donot bring any mediator in between. Sometimes, the third person works as a catalyst in eroding the foundations of your paradise. |